i talked this weekend. and i listened. it was good to have done that with someone other than chou. and though i love him (and he- me), we cant possibly tell each other everything everyday (though we eventually do). we need other outputs. i had mine this weekend. it wasnt much, but it was enough to make me realize.. hey! i need to do this more often! anyway, it was a bunch of necessary gossip. oh yes, we all do that. a little, or a lot. we've done it! dont shy away from it! it's ok to let a little out every now and then. as long as the other person keeps their mouths shut. oh, touche. touche. so i, no wait WE (bc we're both in it t-o-g-e-t-h-e-r), expressed how we felt about our current living conditions. we had quite a few annoyances to discuss. you know, ive never had a roomate ever. i never lived outside of my parents home, so i never got to experience the "college/dorm life." and now i can ALMOST say ive experienced the annoyances of a roomate. they're not my roomates, technically...but it feels like it. anyway, dont want to discuss too much. word might leak. ^_^ actually, i discussd this one subject with more than one person. so yeah. basically, i told them how there were two different types of "dumb" guys: the ones who are too over-the-top aggressive; and the ones who are too stupid, and let their s/o walk all over them. here's what we discussed: women who walk all over their bf's/husbands. the ones who abuse them. whether it's verbal, mental, physical, etc. they ridicule them and criticize them. ALL THE TIME. they put them down in front of their friends, family, and embarrass them. they make them feel stupid and "lower" than them. they nag, nag, and NAG. they complain. they pick out all the negatives, and thrive on it. they act like they're the queen of the world, and makes sure he treats her that way. my question was: why are they SO stupid to let their gfs/wives do that?! WHY ARE YOU SO DUMB! i personally think that, yeah, we women deserve alot. but i also think that they also deserve the same respect. afterall, they're people too. just bc men have a certain stereotype (that they're all mean, stupid, and too overpowering), doesnt mean they dont deserve what we deserve. cmon, we all have feelings. we're all capable of emotion. and if he does start to take advantage of that, then you'll KNOW he ain't the one for you, mama. i heard on the radio the other morning while driving to work about a guy who is in his 15th year of marriage, with children, and doesnt know what to do anymore. his wife verbally abuses him. she always embarrasses him in front of his family. she puts him down. she calls him names in front of his kids. etc. anyway, he's not quite sure whether he should leave the marriage, or stay (for the kids). what is he to do? i mean, i REALLY dont know his situation. he could be the person initiating all of this, he could be contributing to all of his abuse, he COULD be lying for all i know. the bottom line is, how can you be so stupid to let that happen to you? ive seen this happen in front of my eyes. heck, i live with it. and i just dont know why. i asked chou why some guys allow this to happen, are aware of it, and still choose to stay in the relationship. i asked him what would keep him in the relationship (sex is out of the question, people). i dont know. i see the abuse, and it makes me cringe. in my case, not only is he stupid.. i think she's a female dog who is heartless and looks down on his family. it seems as if she thinks she's better than them bc she's got an education and supposedly has "class." bs. anyway, back to my point. from a guy's point of view: would you let it happen to you if you start to see it in your relationship? would you continue to stay? why would you stay? from a girl's point of view: is she a female dog? or is she just demanding what women really deserve? im disgusted. these people are like the bugs that fly around your face. you just wanna smack the heck out of them. | 
